It may seem unusual that a book on homeschooling high school is spending so much time on these non-academic issues like family relationships and friendships and now dating. But if we step away from the transcripts a minute and look at what we’re really doing here, we can’t avoid talking about these areas. Homeschooling is about training our teens for adult life, preparing them for the relationships and responsibilities that define who God created them to be. So we cannot neglect these areas. In fact, we must prioritize them.
This includes their growing relationships with the opposite gender. Our teens, whether we like it or not, whether we are ready for it or not, whether we have strong feelings about it or not, have “noticed” boys and girls. They have a God-given urge to seek out a mate and enjoy the blessings of intimacy. They want love. And it’s a good thing, God says.
But obviously, like every other privilege God has given us, this comes with responsibility: the responsibility of purity, of purpose, of discernment, of honor. And it’s our job as parents to prepare our young people for what will be the most important decision they every make, besides their decision to follow Christ.
Homeschooling is about training our teens for adult life, preparing them for the relationships and responsibilities that define who God created them to be.
But first, I want to tell you to relax: I’m not going to get into a courtship vs. dating debate. I’m not going to prescribe a formula to follow. I’m not going to cast judgment on all the “wrong” ways to teach these principles to our young people. Instead, I hope to show you how my husband and I discuss this issue with our teens. And whatever you call the process of learning about the opposite gender, making friends with boys and girls, and seeking God’s will for a mate, we’re going to call it all “dating” just for the sake of expediency. Perhaps we can take some of the fear and panic out of the issue and help you intentionally pass along your values to your teens.
Because this is the heart of homeschooling, passing on your beliefs and values to your next generation. Hopefully, when you set down your homeschool why, you didn’t list specific salaries or titles or external measures of behavior as your primary homeschool purpose. No matter what your most important homeschool values, I am fairly certain you are after changed hearts and minds. Right?
This post is an excerpt from my new book Homeschool High School Made Easy, available on Amazon. Get your copy today!
And don’t miss the prequel, Homeschool Made Easy.