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Lessons From a Cage Fight in a Minivan

In my book Rocking Ordinary I share about an epic battle my husband and I had in a parking lot. Really big fight. And that story is one of the most-talked-about parts of the book. Maybe because we’ve all been there, too? So when my friend Tricia Goyer asked me to share how God challenged me to step out of my comfort zone and do something radical for Him . . . yeah, this memory sprang to mind. Because there’s nothing like a marital spat to turn things around, right? J.C. Penny’s isn’t a great place to start a fight with your husband, come to find out. When we realized our increasingly tense voices were garnering the side eye from more than one customer, we high-tailed it out of there. There was only one place to go: the minivan. It was a cage fight in the minivan. Don’t tell me you’ve never had one. Enclosed in the seemingly soundproof vehicle (in order to have a minivan cage fight, you must first pretend your minivan is …

How Humbling Yourself In Your Time of Need Changes Everything

Who is your hero? Like, I’m talking about a modern-day hero, someone who’s momming really hard and rocking ordinary in her family, her church, and her community? Someone you secretly motivate yourself to be more like . . . because you see Jesus in her? One of my few heroes today is Tricia Goyer. People call me busy, but I call Tricia busy: a mother of many, homeschool mom, prolific author, active volunteer, mentor of teens . . . it’s easier to list what this woman DOESN’T do. We met on facebook a few years ago, and she’s been a role model to me ever since. In fact, she contacted me when my husband and I were praying about adoption to share the need in US foster children. And she’s been generous with the advice and prayers through our long journey. So when she wrote a book on how to radically live out our faith every day, I became desperate to get my hands on Walk It Out. And when she agreed to visit with …

Can You Get Back on the Bike?

In which I admit I have no idea what I’m doing. Have you ever stopped riding a bike for several years? I’m guessing you have at some time. Not a lot of Moms get to ride their bikes as frequently as their children do. So we hang up the bicycle in the garage and try to forget the gentle hum of the wheels and the feeling of wind through our hair. Have you ever gotten on a bike after several years of not riding? Your balance is slightly off, you wobble down the street, and you wonder why the seat feels about seven feet higher off the ground than before. You wonder if you’ll fall and shatter on the road. You pray no cars come down the street while you struggle to control the contraption in the middle of God and everybody. Your child looks on in bemusement or outright ridicules your lack of coordination. Yes, you can forget how to ride a bike. But it does come back to you after an hour or two, …

I Got My Word of the Year Wrong (of course)

Do you pick a Word of the Year? It’s kinda’ the thing to do these days years. I have several friends who pick a word from the Lord to meditate on, to live out, to wrestle with through the year. For the past couple of years, I’ve been fearful of picking the Word of the Year.  Because there are 171, 476 words in the English language and the chance of picking the right one word out of all of those is 0.00000583%. I did the math. I have a better chance of being struck by lightening. Again, I looked it up. Last year was The Year of Lea Ann. Don’t roll your eyes, it was really a thing. The Year of David was two years previous, and it went . . . ok for him. But last January, all signs pointed to a Super Awesome Year of Amazing Things for Lea Ann. When my husband christened it in my honor, I had no objections. Neither did the principalities, powers, and rulers of the darkness of this world, either …

Garfias Family 2016 Update

I just realized that so much happened to all of us in 2016. And though I generally post a lot on facebook, not everyone catches all the wild and crazy antics of the Garfias family. So in case you’re wondering what’s going on in our busy house, here’s a family update. The big family news of the year was our adoption journey. We started the process toward adopting from foster care last spring, then put things on hold mid-year due to my book release and an international adoption possibility. But after some prayer and waiting, we became convinced that adopting from foster care is truly God’s plan for our family. We’ve completed all the training, paperwork, and requirements on our end now. We’re just awaiting the final home study (the last of three home inspections and private interviews with every family member) before beginning the placement process. We plan to adopt a Hispanic sibling group of two or three children younger than Xzavian. Preparing for foster care licensing was much more grueling than we anticipated. …